"The label you give yourself cannot impact external forces that are not motivated by your own psychology or influenced by a third party's pre-existing consciousness of you. We are all presented with reasons to struggle which come from completely external forces; to pretend that one is not struggling is either arrogance or an admission of defeat. To admit that one is struggling is a sign and a source of strength." - Evan A. Baker

Saturday, January 15, 2011

On My Soapbox

How old were you when you were told to hate someone?

Such a weird concept, isn't it? But our politics today are filled with hate speech and ignorance, usually in the name of a religious figure.


If Jesus were alive today, he'd be a Jewish hippie. He'd smell like nag champa, have his curly hair dreaded, share his food with you, and tell you some great stories.

Then he'd be shot at by a lunatic because he clearly had a socialist agenda with all his sharing of bread and fish.

Some Reactionary Christians forget that being Christian means to be like Christ. To love, to share, to accept. To help, to understand, to heal.

This God Hates Bundles of Sticks "church" makes my heart hurt because it's just one large extended family teaching their children that hate speech and grossly insensitive public demonstrations is how one should live one's life. Little children learn it is better to not understand something and criticize it, hate it, try to squash it, than it is to be empathetic.

That's one polar side of things.

But in the middle, we still have a lot of people who believe that being gay is a chosen lifestyle. That it is evil, that it is wrong, that if they just prayed hard enough, they could change, but they don't really want to.

It's not a choice.

I came across a beautiful blog called Born this Way.  DJPaulV created a site, asking for those who were different, to send him a picture of themselves when they were young and how old they were when they knew they were, well, born this way.

What you get are some of the pithiest, strongest, funniest, mini autobiographies of people who are clearly different at 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, years old.

I love this site. It is empowering, most definitely, but by using pictures of themselves at such young ages, it really proves that the hate for anyone is wrong. Everyone is somebody's son or daughter. Everyone was a little kid.

Everyone deserves love, understanding, compassion.

Loving others is the only way we'll be able to love ourselves.


1 comment:

  1. I know that it is hard to understand why people are hateful, but it almost always goes back to fear. People who do hateful things do so because they are afraid. I was reading Richard Bach's book RUNNING FROM SAFETY and he was having a conversation with his wife, Leslie, and they were talking about the times when he gets angry. He says something like (me paraphrasing from memory) that it always is a response to having something taken from him or a fear button pushed. Ususally that response is short-lived, because he remembers that all of this is just stuff. This place isn't really home. This is just one life among many. Our real home is The Other Side. And everything important is already inside you. No one can take that away. However, sometimes he gets attached to "things," or people, or ideas, etc. and someone is able to push a button and frighten him by suggesting that it can be taken away. And, thus, fear is punched. For him, that lasts seconds. For the rest of the populace, not so much.

    And I think that is where the real problem lies. If you can find a way to take away the fear, the rest dissipates. People fear things, people, ideas, etc. that they don't understand. It would be nice is love were the strongest motivator that there was, but it isn't. Or... at least, it is being impeded by fear. Once someone can move beyond the fear, that is when all of the possibilities are open to them. Until they can get past the big "F" word, they are stuck.


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