"The label you give yourself cannot impact external forces that are not motivated by your own psychology or influenced by a third party's pre-existing consciousness of you. We are all presented with reasons to struggle which come from completely external forces; to pretend that one is not struggling is either arrogance or an admission of defeat. To admit that one is struggling is a sign and a source of strength." - Evan A. Baker

Wednesday, January 20, 2010

"Have You Been in Anything I've Seen?"

Last night, I was waiting tables and a guy came back to see me because he had a great time the last time I served him (dirty joke here). Let's call him Tony. He said, I'm surprised that you're only a writer because you have such a great personality, I could easily see you as an actress.

That's right, I only told him that I had written a webseries and was casting it. Why? Because honestly, saying I'm an actress makes me less interesting. If I'm an actress, I'm a dime a dozen. If I'm a writer (blogger, former columnist [but that could change soon, more details on that later, promise!] screenwriter, published poet (National Library of Poetry is a joke, but hey, I was 12 and my poem was in an actual book!) I am way more interesting. And you know what? I'm smarter. If I can string a couple of sentences together, I am a brilliant person. A million times smarter than that stupid waitress with a never to be realized dream!

Admit it. We all judge. And it's okay. I get it. I do it too.

So after I admitted to Tony that I WAS an actress, he got excited.

"Have you been in anything I've seen?"

Struggling actresses usually HATE this question because if we've been in anything you've seen, we wouldn't be waiting tables!

But I was able to actually list off a couple of things I've been in. And chances are, if you're a stay at home mom and love either Discovery Health or TLC, you've seen me. AND, an old friend messaged me on Facebook, saying, "Hey I could've sworn I saw you on America's Most Wanted the other night." And hooray! That explains my imdb jump (26,152 on my starmeter, which means absolutey nothing).

I'm excited for 2010. I hope to be in a few more things that you'll get to see. Like that webseries I wrote...


  1. Definitely one of the worst questions! My second favorite: "So do you know anyone famous?"

  2. LOL well at least you handled it gracefully. Third (non)favorite question: "So what have you auditioned for lately?" When it's slow and someone asks you that, it's like a knife to the chest.


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