"The label you give yourself cannot impact external forces that are not motivated by your own psychology or influenced by a third party's pre-existing consciousness of you. We are all presented with reasons to struggle which come from completely external forces; to pretend that one is not struggling is either arrogance or an admission of defeat. To admit that one is struggling is a sign and a source of strength." - Evan A. Baker

Sunday, October 11, 2009


One of the things I hate about being an actress is how I cannot trust people. People have lied to me regarding what they can and want to do to help me. There are people who have grossly taken advantage of me and my friends, and so we learn to be leery of people we don't know who want to do nice things for us. Because, what're you REALLY trying to do?

Take, for an example, Nigeria. Apparently, there are a lot of people there who need my help and money so that they can gain access to their millions of dollars with which they'll pay me back.
The internet is filled with these things.

I just got an email from "Patrik," from a comhem.se email account (which is a Swedish email service. I could tell because there are a lot of words on the site which I had bought from Ikea and put together in my living room. Plus, on my third Google Translator try, proved me correct).
Now, when one creates an email account, you usually put your first and last name down so that people will know who you are. This account only had the first letter of his first name. So in my inbox, all it says is "P" with his actual email being four of the same letters strung together. Like this: aaaa@comhem.se
Fishy, right?

Oooh, but it gets more interesting. In the email, he writes:

Im planning an article on Wikipedia about Lira.
I wonder if its ok with her/you ?
And I wonder if you please could add some facts and a photo

Of course my first action was to ignore it and click "Spam." He had my email address from my website. How he found that, I don't know, but Nigerian princes have before, so there. Because, really, how could a Swede have even a remote idea that I exist somewhere? For some reason, I just don't believe my "What Should You Do?" episode made that much of an impression on a swede who feels the need to start a Wiki page about me. ME. I AM NOBODY. I'm your every day waitress.

But in my inbox there's another email from the same guy:

Hi again,
Maybe I should add that I just want the ordinary facts like birthday, where she grew up, marriage, children, hobbies, future plans...
This is no spam or something weird its 100% serious.
Im planning doing other articles too, but there wasnt any Lira one so...

Okay. So maybe this person is a real person with real feelings and somehow found me and wants to write something about a no-name actress just because. Maybe if he publishes on Wikipedia, he'll have an article to reference as a writing sample to get more work. Who knows. So I thought the least I could do was respond:

I am flattered,
however, how did you hear of me? Do you have other articles you have written for Wikipedia? Forgive me, but I have Nigerian princes asking me for money all the time, so I hope you can appreciate my hesitance.

With his response, maybe I will tell him my birthdate, place of birth, mother's maiden name and social security number. It's the right thing to do.


  1. Looks like it happened: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Lira_Kellerman

    Don't know if you'd be weirded out by a comment left by a total stranger, but I thought I'd go ahead anyway. In addition to letting you know about your Wikipedia article, I wanted to let you know that I read your blog. It's good. And entertaining. And interesting. Keep it up -- I'll continue reading creepily, from a distance...if that's cool with you...


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